HIYA. I’m Lucy, I’m 36, live in London, have a successful career in broadcasting, am reasonably attractive, don’t have kids, I’m not crazy and I’m single. A few months ago I went through a break up. It had been on the cards for a while and was pretty amicable. (Although I was pretty annoyed that he took the Le Creuset AND my glass Pyrex jug). The swine.
However, even though I’m joking about it now, any break up is hard on the heart. Everyone reacts differently, and for me personally the first month or so was particularly sad. I’ve experienced the whole spectrum of emotions since, the highs and lows and everything else in between.
I’m writing this blog because I realized something. Of all the material out there about relationships, make ups and break ups alike, there isn’t a place for women in their mid-thirties and above to go to when they go through something similar. Most of my friends of the same age are married with kids, and the younger friends haven’t quite had the same life experiences as us slightly older and (not necessarily) wiser ladies.
I’m sharing this with you as I hope you can gain something from it. Whether it helps with your self esteem or you simply read it, laugh, cry, or relate to it in any way, then brilliant! Being female and single in your thirties DEFINITELY isn’t a bad thing. There absolutely should not be a stigma attached to it.
It feels like we’re expected to be crying into a pillow, stinking of Chardonnay, cat pee and desperation. (for the record I prefer salty rimmed Margaritas & smell expensive, darling). The biggest thing I’ve learned is that being single aged 36 is actually rather exciting, unpredictable and utterly refreshing! The sense of freedom is incredible.
What you’ll read over the coming weeks is kind of a diary of what I’ve been up to since I became single again. I’ve been the stereotype singleton, grown as a person, learned to value the friendships I already have, and also to appreciate the small things. It’s also confirmed to me that I’ve essentially undergone a ‘rebrand’.
I’m going to be open, honest and I hope, encouraging. Note to past/present/future ‘frissons’ – you’re safe, don’t worry. I’m not the type to kiss and tell. Unlike my ex Husband. (sorry, I couldn’t resist….) Are you ready for the Break up Rebrand?
Keep your eyes peeled for the next installment…. L x
PS: If you have any thoughts on the blog please let me know, using #breakuprebrand! I’m @lucyhorobin on Twitter and Instagram, and Lucy Horobin on Facebook! Thank you lovelies.